This is a little bit of a serious thing for Happy Disco, but it needs to be said.
Recently, ex-Morning Musume member Yaguchi Mari has filed for divorce from her husband. The clear reasons are infidelity, because she cheated on her husband. However, she’s stated that one of the reasons is that her husband was violent towards her.
I don’t want to apologize for people who cheat. It’s not a good thing to be doing. However, I’ve been really disappointed by how people have been treating Mari’s allegations of domestic violence. So I wanted to make this post to say that.
“But Yaguchi mentioned this after she got caught cheating!” So what? So that means that we can immediately dismiss allegations of violence? We don’t know everything that happened, but domestic violence is one thing that should be taken seriously.
“If she had been treated violently, wouldn’t she have said something before?” Not every victim feels like they are able to stand up and say something. In the US “On average, only 70% of nonfatal partner violence is reported to law enforcement. Of those not reporting, 41% of male and 27% of female victims (34% average) stated victimization being a private/personal matter as reason for not reporting, 15% of women feared reprisal, 12% of all victims wished to protect the offender, and 6% of all victims believed police would do nothing.
(Bureau of Justice Statistics, Intimate Partner Violence in the U.S. 1993-2004, 2006.)”
Further, those are US statistics; talking about domestic violence is possibly more taboo in Japan than in the US. “In a society as gossip-phobic as Japan’s, the shame associated with domestic troubles was monumental. All measures were taken — by family members, victims and victimizers alike — to prevent discord from becoming public” It may have been hard for Mari, a public figure, to come out and say that her husband was violent to her before now.
Like I said earlier, we don’t know the whole story and probably never will. However, I’ve been extremely saddened by the comments of people completely dismissing her comments. Domestic Violence is a serious problem and we should take it seriously.